PERSONAL SAFETY PLAN


YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE SAFE!




Oklahoma Indian Legal Services, Inc.
4200 Perimeter Drive, Suite 222
Oklahoma City, OK 73112
405/943-OILS
405/917-7060 fax
1/800-658-1497



I. SAFETY DURING AN EXPLOSIVE INCIDENT.
A. If an argument seems unavoidable, try to have it in a room or area where you will have access to an exit. Try to stay away from the bathroom, kitchen, bedroom, or anywhere else where weapons might be available.
B. Practice how to get out of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows, elevator, or stairwell would be best.
C. Have a packed bag ready and keep it at a relative's or friend's home in order to leave quickly.
D. Identify one or more neighbor's you can tell about the violence and ask that they call the police if they hear a disturbance coming from your home.
E. Devise a code word to use with your children, family, friends, and neighbors when you need the police.
F. Decide a plan for where you will go if you have to leave home (even if you don't think you will need to).
G. Use your own instincts and judgment. If the situation is very dangerous, consider giving the abuser what he wants to calm him down. You have the right to protect yourself until you are out of danger.
H. Always remember. YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE HIT OR THREATENED.


II. SAFETY WHEN PREPARING TO LEAVE.
A. Open a savings account and/or credit card in your own name to start to establish or increase your own independence. Think of other ways in which you can increase your independence.

B. Leave money, extra set of keys, copies of important documents, extra medicines and clothes with someone you trust so you can leave quickly.
C. Determine who would be able to let you stay with them or lend you some money.
D. Keep the shelter or hotline number close at hand and keep some change or a calling card on you at all times for emergency phone calls.
E. Review your safety plan as often as possible in order to plan the safest way to leave your batterer. REMEMBER - LEAVING YOUR BATTERER IS THE MOST DANGEROUS TIME.


III. SAFETY IN YOUR OWN HOME.
A. Change the locks on your doors as soon as possible. Buy additional locks and safety devices to secure your windows.
B. Discuss a safety plan with your children for when you are not with them.
C. Inform your children's school, day care, etc., about who has permission to pick up your children.
D. Inform neighbors and landlord that your partner no longer lives with you and that they should call the police if they see him near your home.
E. Never call the abuser from your home. If he has caller ID, he may be able to locate your residence.


IV. SAFETY WITH A PROTECTIVE ORDER.
A. Keep your protective order on you at all times. (When you change your purse, that should be the first thing that goes in it.)
B. Call the police if your partner breaks the protective order.
C. Think of alternative ways to keep safe if the police do not respond right away.
D. Inform family, friends, and neighbors that you have a protective order in effect.


V. SAFETY ON THE JOB AND IN PUBLIC.
A. Decide who at work you will inform of your situation. This should include office or building security (provide a picture of your batterer if possible).
B. Arrange to have someone screen your telephone calls if possible.
C. Devise a safety plan for when you leave work. Have someone escort you to your car. Use a variety of routes to go home if possible. Think about what you would do if something happened going home (i.e., in your car, on the bus, etc.)


VI. YOUR SAFETY & EMOTIONAL HEALTH.
A. If you are thinking of returning to a potentially abusive situation, discuss an alternate plan with someone you trust.
B. If you have to communicate with your partner, determine the safest way to do so.
C. Have positive thoughts about self and be assertive with others about your needs.
D. Read books, articles, and poems to help you feel strong.
E. Decide who you can call to talk freely and openly to give you the support you need.
F. Plan to attend a women's or victim's support group for at least 2 weeks to gain support from others and learn more about yourself and the relationship.


VII. IF YOU ARE A TEEN IN A VIOLENT DATING RELATIONSHIP.
A. Decide which friend, teacher, relative, or police officer you can tell.
B. Contact an advocate at the Court to decide how to obtain a protective order and make a safety plan.


CHECKLIST - WHAT YOU NEED TO TAKE WHEN YOU LEAVE:
IDENTIFICATION:
Driver's License
Child's birth certificate
Your birth certificate
Social security card
Welfare identification

FINANCIAL:
Money and/or credit cards
Lease, rental agreement, house deed
Bank books
Checkbooks

LEGAL PAPERS:
YOUR PROTECTIVE ORDER
Car registration and insurance papers
Health and life insurance papers
Medical records (all family members)
School records
Work permits/Green card/Visa
Passport
Divorce papers
Custody papers

OTHER:
House and car keys
Medications
Small sellable objects
Address book
Phone card
Pictures of you, your children
Jewelry
Child's small toys
Toiletries/diapers
Change of clothes for you and your children

FOR MORE INFORMATION
Contact one of the following numbers:
24 HOUR EMERGENCY HOTLINES
Battered Women's SAFELINE 1/800-522-7233
Child Abuse Hotline 1/800-422-4453
Elder Abuse/Adult Protective Svcs 1/800-522-3511
Rape Hotline 1/800-522-9054
Suicide Help 1/800-522-9054
COUNSELING
Reachout Hotline 1/800-522-9054
Teenline 1/800-522-8336
LEGAL ASSISTANCE
Oklahoma Indian Legal Services 1/800-658-1497
Legal Aid of Western Oklahoma 1/800-421-1641
Legal Services of Eastern Oklahoma 1/800-299-3338